It’s a magic something that other people have a lot more of, right? Something you need to find first before you can reach for another level of success or get started in a new direction.
How we talk about confidence makes it seem like it is something look for…
“I wish I could feel more confident.”
“She is really lacking in confidence.”
“What you need is more confidence.”
While researching a winning paper on Scarlett O’Hara of Gone With The Wind, using the 959 page novel and not the powder-puff, Hollywood film, I found out a lot about confidence.
Margaret Mitchell’s Scarlett O’Hara: Fluffy, Fictional Character or a Prototype for Surviving a Shift to a New Normal? Published by The Pirate’s Alley Faulkner Society in their literary magazine called The Double Dealer, you can read it here now.
Survival and confidence are tightly linked. Lasting confidence comes from actions, not outside sources.
Coming soon is my mini-book on Confidence.
Short enough to read in a weekend, deep enough to learn why you can’t just “find” some.
Whether you want a different job, better relationships, more kwan*, or just some peace over the whole mystery, this mini-book is for you.
Is getting confidence more of a woman’s concern?
No. But you don’t see many men waiting until they lose that last 10 pounds, have more experience, or deserve it to go after what they want.
* Definition of “kwan”: from a line in the script from the 1996 movie, Jerry MaGuire, starring Tom Cruise, Renee Zellweger, Regina King, and the always awesome Cuba Gooding, Jr. From Wikiquotes:
Jerry: I started talking with Dennis Wilburn about your renegotiation.
Rod: Talking. Jerry Rice, Andre Reed, Chris Carter… I smoke all these fools. They are making the big sweet dollars. They are making the kwan, and you are talking.
Jerry: Kwan. That’s your word?
Rod: Yeah, man, it means love, respect, community… and the dollars too. The whole package. The kwan.
Jerry: Great word. Towel?
Rod: No, I air-dry.